I am speaking at a summit. I will be speaking on autism and work, and how to get and keep autistic people in the workplace, and thus use our skills.

The other talks will also be well worth seeing and you will learn a lot. Please click on the link below.


Individuals with Aspergers syndrome are on the higher end of the spectrum. Usually these issues are first observed when a kid starts school. The child can have all the indications of Aspergers, or only a few. Here are some of the common indications of Aspergers syndrome. 1. Have a tough time talking to other kids. […]

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Time for another installment in my “Understanding ‘X’ and Autism” posts, for all of those people out there trying to learn more and/or better understand their autistic friends and loved ones. For today’s post, we’ll start with a story. The scene is about two years ago, December of my sophomore year of high school. Every […]

Understanding Echolalia and Autism — Speaking of Autism…

I have previously given some ideas how to further understand and respect autistic people and their unique skill and build on this further. Here are some further tips to help ripen and grow them.

4. Build mutual trust and respect

By getting to know us as we are, by working with us from where we actually are, rather than where you think we are, and understanding where we are we will trust you more, and communication will increase.

Consistency in your performance and instructions, to all staff will help. I have seen inconsistencies and decided to put off feeling trust in management as a result of inconsistency in instructions given, differing responses given to differing staff and directly conflicting instructions from different bosses. This made it impossible to grow and improve efficiently, and reduced trust within the team, where it was noticed.

5. Mentoring and other support

This should be with a trusted person, not automatically any line management, but could be from Human Resources (especially if experienced with disabilites), or other person, with clear, mutually agreed goals. If there is no trust or respect between the parties, sit down meetings, clear goals and reports the chances of success are quite low. The autistic person should have a say in the appropriate person, and feel able to trust them totally.

When done well, there should be mutual trust and respect relations will succeed and there will be freedom of communication, and increased trust and respect on both sides.

6. Building up confidence

The actions above should help with

a/ SMART, clear goals – clear, measurable goals

b/ Clear, positive feedback, stating why the action was good, when. Comments like ‘At times’ with little specific information as to when and little or no indication of remedial action, or chance to discuss generally reduce confidence.

c/ Constructive feedback where there were issues –

Good/Bad/Good, so it ends on a positive, all issues having been clearly discussed, with clear goals for improvement.

Another approach which encourages discussion of areas of challenge could be – ‘I noticed you did this at this point, and it lead to this happening. Maybe if you try it that way, it might work better. What do you think?

This opens dialogue more than ‘You did this, which was wrong, do it better/differently in future’. This ends on a negative note, and is more likely to reduce/shut down future communication where low levels of confidence already exist as a result of previous experience.

I have had my confidence destroyed as a result of some of the actions above, leading to lack of clarity of expectations as I felt unable to communicate with management. As a result I have told you can build on the confidence of the person with autism, to avoid this happening to others.

Please contact me if you have any questions or would like more information. Look out for my next post. It will be worth it.

Find out why do so many autistic people chew on things.

Why do so many autistic people chew on things? — Speaking of Autism…

“What’s my name, Quincy?” … “Come on, we’re in the same English class, how can you not know who I am?” This has become a common interaction for me at school recently, ever since it became widespread knowledge that “Quincy can’t remember anyone’s name.” I get stopped a lot with people asking me the same […]

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Reviews are an essential part of building companies and employees to perform at their best. However they can be very stressful as I said in my last blog. Especially for autistic people, many of whom have struggled to keep work, possibly due to poor reviews due to symptoms and misunderstandings. I was only diagnosed with ASD, autism spectrum disorder, after workplace reviews. I was not the first. I will not, I am sure, be the last. The diagnosis brought me great relief.

Last time I discussed, Support, Preferences of feedback, recording, and information provided in advance. This does take time, but it will really help all parties.

Some other issues to be considered as part of the review system, based on my experience are

5. Clear Positives and areas to improve

Some of this was covered in Ripening and Building, but worth covering here too. How feed back is given on particular areas. Areas of good performance and why it was good provide a solid foundation to build on. Areas of improvement should be clear, why they are considered poor and discuss how to improve. Training, internal or external may help, including Access to Work, or support from charities.

Summarise these at the end, leaving on a clear positive note. This could be as simple as we can see you are doing well here etc. There are areas to improve on here. We know working together you will make it. Well done. We now want to try, and know what to do. Rather than only words a barchart or diagram will clearly show level of performance and progress. A visual sign, with back up notes if required.

This will provide firm foundations of improvement. A more positive start point.

6. Clear questions and comments and clarifications

There will be a lot of talking, it is unavoidable. However by keeping questions clear, and clarifying what you mean if necessary, leading gently to the issue helps. We cannot read between the lines as to the required answers. I have had the experience of being asked a question, trying to answer it, being stopped, AGGRESSIVELY I felt . I am now feeling scared. Asked it again, trying to answer it again, stopped again, AGGRESSIVELY I felt. I am now feeling very scared, finally being asked it again, giving VERY confused and scared, the precise answer wanted, in the manner required. They displayed their anger at my earlier incorrect responses and how they were not delivered succinctly enough. Did I trust that person again? No. Did I want to speak to that person again? No. They later acknowledged my first answer was relevant. My trust and respect was not restored in that person however. This negatively affected my working relationship with them, and indeed the rest of that meeting.

So what you think, or the desired answer may not be what you get first time. Seek clarification, follow up, lead, acknowledge the answers, nicely.

This leads on to the next point.

7. Our thinking process

Our answers may not be clear in response immediately. It can, according to Tony Attwood take up to a minute for an autistic person to respond, and we may talk around the subject, struggling to find the right word. This is where having support helps us. They can help clarify if necessary. The short delay for the answer, rather than just rushing in is worth it.

I do emphasise that this does not mean we are not intelligent. It means our brains operate differently. Be patient with uncovering our thoughts and processes, display this and our confidence will grow, and our wonderful talents can help companies, especially during and post COVID-19. The wait is worth it.

8. Review reports and follow up meetings to discuss

Whoever writes these up, they should be discussed, and amendments made if necessary. If there are note takers at review meetings this should ensure an accurate report, with which both parties are happy with. Either way they should be mutually agreed and signed off. I have been in situations where they were not, but management did not seem concerned, adversely affecting the review process.

This is where reflection time and discussions matter. For the performer it shows their view point is important and everything is clear. Vague comments like ‘Mostly performed well but at times….’, ‘lots to work on’ but insufficient details are too vague to be helpful, with the negative aspects counting over any positives. They must be clear and management happy to discuss any issues you have, until there are no issues. Where this has happened, regularly with some managers, I have lost confidence in myself and trust in them.

Clear, SMART goals, with clear, timely feedback, good and bad, delivered well can really help improve performance and confidence between meetings. What company would not want this?

The result of reviews poorly carried out could be – Loss of employee engagement, poor performance, unhappy staff and departments, high stress levels, increased absence due to health issues, loss of communication and possibly disciplinary or other review processes. All of this could be time consuming and expensive and still result in the loss of skills and knowledge. Not desirable for any company wanting to grow especially in this time of lockdown and Covid-19, and uncertainty still ahead of us.

So to recap, it is important with reviews to be clear on levels of performance, clear questions, recognition of our thinking process and review reports. As an Autistic person I have requested support for reviews, it is on my personnel file. I am sure it will help me a great deal to grow within my work.

Some of this may seem time consuming and yes, it will take extra time. However, staff are the main cost in the company. Invest well and we as your investments will grow. Don’t CLAM us up in the Review process, CALM us down, and we will perform well. Remember, treat everyone as individuals and adapt to our needs in this area.

I hope you enjoyed that and have learnt something. I have lots more information to come. Please post in comments if you have any questions or would like to know more about Autism.

If there are areas you feel would be useful to cover contact me and I will be happy to discuss these. My wish is to help autistic people and companies work together for the benefit of all. Working together we could make an awesome team.

Posted by: jofarmer | July 3, 2020

Who am I ???

Very good, I don’t like bright lights either and just like comfortable clothes. Masking to fit in is exhausting.

OldLady With Autism

Finding your authentic self after diagnosis

There has been much discussion lately, in the online forums I attend , about masking and finding one’s own identity.
How to drop the mask and be more authentic? How to know who I really am beneath all the adaptive and self protective behaviors I have learned over my lifetime? How do I know which parts are “real” and which parts are camouflage for self protection or ease of coping?

I was at a loss for a long time about these questions. For me a lot of these questions did not apply because as I had aged, I had adjusted my style of dress, my social behavior, my willingness to put up with discomfort, etc.
I had become more authentic to myself for the most part before I learned of my autism.

It might be a process of ageing that we become less willing…

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According to the DSM-V, autism spectrum disorders are four times more common among males than females. This could be due to either Sex-differential genetic or hormonal factors, or simply that many females suffering from autism go under the radar, perhaps due the fact that their behaviour can differ greatly from stereotypical autistic traits. The diagnostic […]

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Performance reviews and any review can be stressful for anyone, most of us would agree, even when confidence levels are good and are essential to companies. For many autistic people they can be really stressful based on life experiences. These could include criticism for autistic traits, including behaviours, expressing yourself and other interactions including outbursts due to stress.

Add to this the nerves kicking in, trying to work out what is meant by what is said, what you are meant to say back, trying to remember it, so it can be noted later. We, as autistic people can have issues with short term working memory. Everything it seems is expected to take place in one meeting. You and the manager. Even with trusted managers this can be hard. Then you are told your meeting notes are not correct and you misunderstood something.

Further meetings have not always bee encouraged or considered necessary with me in the past leading to confusion, lack of trust in management and lack of clarity of areas where performing well or necessary improvement. The consequences were major, for me destroying my confidence, and the company losing my skills and active input as I felt unable to communicate with management.

Good review systems done well will lead to mutual trust and respect, leading to good relations and good performance. Lose the trust of the employees and you lose a lot of potential talent, it is hard to regain.

I will discuss some approaches which may help. More effort may be required, but boy, it can be worth it to open up our Pandora’s box of skills.

  1. Representation

It may be normal practice to have a 1 to 1 talk with your line manager, and all to go well with the process. However it might be helpful to have a person to support the autistic person at reviews (or indeed any other important meeting). This could be a Union Representative, Human Resources representative or someone from a charity like the National Autistic Society. Someone who hopefully knows the person, who can clarify any questions and responses and keep the autistic person calm and able to explain any issues. Immediate responses may not be given as time may be needed to process the answer then express it.

2. Advance information

Where possible it might be helpful to provide information on the questions and issues to be discussed in advance. This will enable forward preparation, on the areas to be raised, and collation of information to address this. An interim report might be considered here from the Line Manager to help with complete responses.

3. Recording the information during the meeting

Reviews will often involve long talks, verbally. This can be hard to some so discussing how feedback is preferred is very useful. Thus providing advance information. Trying to discuss and remember everything, when it is verbal can be hard to filter.

Why might this be? We are consciously filtering out information, I do not read body language easily, concentrating on the words more. I therefore lose/totally misunderstand some of the message. I then need to write it all down ASAP! This requires concentration and I may not always look fully engaged. Having someone to help with making notes at the time will reduce stress and ensure accurate records.

Possibly, more importantly, it will ensure full confidence in the Review Process where confidence has previously been lost. I have experienced that, adversely affecting the success of the process as I have felt I was not trusted or respected, and that management write ups were not accurate.

4. Feedback on performance and Reflection time

It should be agreed how the feedback is wanted and how this will be done. Long meetings, verbally given information can be hard to process and retain and may require reflection time. Written reports may help as it will allow for processing of information at leisure.

Please still remember once you have met person with autism, you have met one person with autism. We are all different. This is based on my experience. We want to do well in companies. Consider how best to conduct reviews and we will really shine.

I hope this has helped, look out for the next information on Reviews.

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